How do you deal with fact that you've waited so long for ual life but then suddenly got impotent and hurt?

what does your doctor say about the pain you have? is very important to most of us so your frustration is understandable. be very honest with your doctor so he/she knows the severity of the pain and when it occurs. maybe something can be done to help you. make sure you get different opinions and that at least one opinion comes from an urologist. best of luck with your discomfort.